Throwing Cards and Other Anger Actions

So I come into work tonight and it was relatively slow. I go to my pit and am sitting just relaxing when all of the sudden I here a bang, some vulgarities and see some cards flying across the Pai Gow Poker table. I stand and watch amused, laughing inside at the childish behavior coming from a man of 52 years. Here sits a man, his miserable looking wife and a poor quite Chinese dealer. The dealer stays silent as the man complains he is "getting no hands". What he really means is that he is not getting a hand that is paying him big bonuses. His hand does not lose, which I point out to him. He responds that he just wants a 9 high pai gow, a hand which will pay him 100 to 1 on his bonus bet (a total of $500 if he does get one). "I almost had 3 of then tonight!" he says. I smile and respond, "That's why it pays so much! Everybody ALWAYS almost has them." And turn and walk away.
How is it that people get so angry and disgruntled over a game that they are not really even losing? I mean, this guy did not lose, he just did not win in the way he wanted to. Are all of our expectations in life so much bigger than the reality? Can't we just be happy winning or do we always have to win big to feel successful? How much do we have to lose to get the big payout? Does the big payout ever come? And if it does, do we appreciate it and stop? If life was based on the Pai Gow player, I would say no. The big payouts are never big enough. We did not risk enough when it did come. We always will lose our big payout back to the casino because we just don't take it and walk away. We lose the joy of hitting big because, like a drug, it is never as exciting as the first time so each successent time, we are looking for something better; a bigger payout, a larger wager, a bigger fit when we don't get what we want.